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  1. says:

    Spoiler alert If your protagonist comes to a major life realization while sticking her nose in a guy s hairy ass, I m probably not your target audience.


  2. says:

    Being a woman of Heti s generation currently living in Toronto, this book embarrasses me Heti thinks she is truly having a revelation about living by discovering that her life might at times be ugly , so much so that she feels the need to share it with everyone in a book called How should a person be A novel from life It reminds me of that time when Tyra Banks wore the fat suit for five minutes, had a crap experience, cried and then thought she could teach the world how it felt to be obese Why are we suddenly incapable of understanding something unless someone from a place of privilege interprets it for us And maybe that s the point maybe she is providing a lens through which to see this generation and how it understands the world But I really think that might be giving her too much credit When she adds in the little off topic anecdotes or stories i.e the gravedigger , it seems like a plea for the reader to believe and feel her experience, not just see it.And since I think she truly believes what she is saying, here are some choice quotes I had looked around at my life and realized that all the ugly people had been weeded out Sholem said he couldn t enjoy a friendship with someone he wasn t attracted to Margaux said it was impossible for her to picture an ugly person, and Misha remarked that ugly people tend to stay home Where stay home realistically means stay the f out of Queen West and other related areas to avoid judgements from Heti and her quirky named crew.As a lesbian, I can t help but be offended by statements like this A woman can t find rest or take up home in the heart of another woman not permanently It s just not a safe place to land Or this on the frequency of gay male relationships in France That s why there s suddenly a big increase in homosexuality It s simpler to be with a man because I don t have to deal with these issues these issues relationships with women said earlier in the same breath, the men in France are really messed up They re all afraid of women The writing is OK The chapter The White Men Go to Africa was clever Most intolerable was the lengthy exploration of her typing of sould instead of soul, as it is so representative of much of the book Heti wants us to believe with her that this is some troubling subconscious behaviour related to her feeling like she s sold her soul After bringing it up for the second time, she writes, I shouldn t dwell on it me yes Who gives a fuck in this fucked up world me we agreed to not dwell on it There are problems so vast and so deep that a young woman sitting alone in her room should slit her throat and die sooner than bother about the state of her soul, when so many great artists before her spent decades recalibrating a single blank canvas in their studio, fifteen, sixteen hours a day, as their marriages crumbled into the soil me REALLY To write so much about what is likely a common typo related to keyboard muscle memory would, should , could, soul sould is ridiculous Surely no one takes themselves this seriously It s so telling that her mom lives only a 15 minute bus ride away Someone so deeply involved in self analysis of every banal action seems never far from a parent.


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    I wanted to really like this, because people have been talking about how experimental and feminist this novel is Margaret Atwood wrote a blurb for it, and she s my fave author of all time However, and I suppose that this is a testament to Heti s writing, hence a couple of stars I know this chick I use that word unironically And I hate her She s pretty, she s twee, she is self obsessed and shallow She probably has some ironic mustaches and twitter birds floating around her house She drinks too much and does self destructive things in the name of art that are just stupid and don t really help her art anyway I tried to figure out if I was having a sexist response how would i have felt if something like this had been written by a man But honestly, there are a lot of pretty twee self obsessed men writers I don t really like either If this had been a series of essays, and not an experimental novel I might have liked it better There was a point in the book where I had to force myself to finish, and that is never a good sign.


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    This was a very interesting books There are countless brilliant lines that delighted me to no end I was mostly struck by how damn funny this book was in really smart, subtle ways I knew I was loving this book when I kept catching myself laughing out loud There are parts of the book that baffled me pages of philosophical exegesis that felt rather baffling and somewhat out of step with the book, but the heart of this book is about female friendship and the centrality of it, the importance of it When the book focuses on the tension of the relationship between Sheila and Margaux, How Should a Person Be truly soars The chapter, an Interlude About Fucking or something along those lines , is also about as perfect a book chapter as there can be because of the utter baseness of it I m glad I ended up reading this.


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    I started responding to my GR friend Gaeta s comment, but then I thought I d take a cue from Ms.Heti, and make my transcribed dialogue with my friends into the text itself How fascinating, not.So GAETAI was frightened off by the sexy and depraved tag It seemed I m too cool for you and exhaustingly quirky.ELAINEYes, sexy and depraved More like 50 Shades of Gray by way of Williamsburg or whatever the equivalent Canadian hipster ghetto is After 50 Shades, is it really transgressive to revel in your own subjugation Don t people read 50 Shades at the Olive Garden I think degradation has jumped the shark This book is exactly like spending several hours with a narcissistic vain hipster ette who won t shut up Like The Fault in Our Stars, it s vaguely possible that there is an appropriate age for this book, and I am not it But unlike TFiOS, which is about, and I think for, adolescents, this book is disturbingly about mid 30 somethings making you wish the author and her semi non fictional characters friends would just grow up This book has been much compared to Girls And it does read like the script of Girls worst episodes NB I like Girls, but find it uneven or like your college journal if you were a particularly bitchy self centered unthoughtful college student taken with your own ability to name drop fancy artists and philosophers ok, we were all probably a little like that But Lena Dunham is 26, and her character is 24, and funnier and self aware in a real way as opposed to a precious way than Heti is And we were all 19 when we wrote that college journal Sheila Heti and her characters are circa 35 That s too old to spend your days drunk and wasted, thinking exceedingly dull and trite deep thoughts about art and working and life, and hoping that you will somehow become great at art by thinking about it enough, as opposed to actually engaging with the universe on some non navel gazing level It is possible that this book is a great satiric summary of the utter loss and lostness of a certain generation of entitled aging bright ex young things and would be artists But I think it s not a satire like an artifact How sad To me, this book is the trucker hat of novels It s ugly and terribly banal, yet is supposed to be so ugly and terribly banal that it s actually ironically cool In the end, it s only dull and irritating, but, like the trucker hat, liking it signifies your participation in a certain in group As with the trucker hat, if you have to ask if its real or ersatz, ironic or earnest, you are probably too old or too square to get the point and you probably don t know that Margaux and Sholom are real people who are actual artists in Toronto and actually friends with Heti w luck you don t care Every week when I watch Girls, even or especially the better episodes, I thank heaven I m not 24 any This book had a similar salutary effect on me.


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    Just as it is rare for me to want to hug a book, it is twice as rare for a book to give me a horrific, pessimistic claustrophobia I finished How Should a Person Be in a three hour stretch of downtime at work today, and I remember the distinct thought pop into my head that if the world is really like this, if this book carries the weight of any truth in its pages, then we as people are hopeless and maybe I d rather not live Maybe I d rather not live This book made me briefly, unconsciously suicidal And I just finished reading a book about suicide, and logical defenses of one s right to do so That book didn t make me think of not wanting to live This one did I m not sure if you d call that success The urge to define oneself in relation to others, to not know who one is absent of the opinion or influence of others, to get suckered into relationships with people that make you feel like you have no sense of self who hasn t lived these ideas for herself To me, these are natural issues that come with being a person and living among other people, developing relationships and intimacy with them David Foster Wallace, Kazuo Ishiguro, Shirley Jacksonthese writers have much wisdom to share, in my opinion, about alienation and existing in relation to others.This book, on the other hand, is full of artists who feel like their souls are dying if their voices are recorded Who get upset about mistyping souls as soulds which is a mistake I actually just made while typing the previous sentence, not because I actually feel like my soul is a commodity, but because the S key is really close to the D key Who mistrust Nietzsche when they learn that he typed his books on a typewriter, as opposed to his thoughts just materializing out of the air, I guess Because they re hipster artists and they think in stupid metaphors that no one with normal problems normal concept of self even has time to think about I should have been warned by the Miranda July blurb on the front, I tell you I m really disappointed that this book is so consciously composed of strict hipster philosophy, so forcedly Artful Because I wanted it to give me some wisdom that I could use about intimacy I expected some significantly wiser, less insular, useful examination of who people are in relation to each other Heti kind of ekes out something worthwhile at the end, with Sheila s big revelation view spoiler that maybe she should just exist by her own will and wants, not worrying about her relation to anybody, in order to be a person hide spoiler


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    Insert German term for a coming of age novel Bildungsroman Insert German term for a novel depicting an artist s maturation K nstlerroman When put forth by a contemporary Canadian woman you get something not necessarily new but interesting and I read with true interest throughout It s a simple love story between artistic girlfriends obsessed with art The love between Sheila and Margaux is childish in the best BFF way There s innocence, joy, obsession, boundary transgression, neediness, inspiration, weakness Sure, all emails are rendered in numbered lists for some odd reason and large stretches of dialogue are rendered in spare page turnery script style But this isn t that weird of a bird of a book If by a 1920s European male, about moral and artistic struggle the conflict between freedom and restraint , emotional homosexuality, and promiscuous sex with hot random harlots, no one would second guess But what mattered for me wasn t the gender or the form it was the unpredictability of phrases and narrative movement Anything could happen next, within reason Another texture And it knows where the funny is I laughed aloud at the last page which reminded me of the mimes playing tennis in Blow Up , Solomon in Brooklyn and his Bird s milk, and a lot , although in no way is this a comedy or solely intended to deliver LOLs The Sexytime Interlude with Israel knocked this up a notch prose wise, suggesting light political and almost kabbalistic associations, helping the author experience the sphere of Tifferet beauty when united with Shekinah Malkhuth the Foundation Israel thanks to his Yesod, the exalted cock of God Despite, or because of, its unpredictable movement, it seemed faithful to the storms and stress of existence In general, fiction that feels unlike fiction remains my favorite sort of fiction this is in no way as detailed and steady as Knausgaard, maybe a little like Lerner s Leaving the Atocha Station, but flightier lighter Unlike Tao Lin s stuff, it explicitly tries to err on the side of meaning, which I really admire as a long time fan of the idea that ideas can thrive in fiction, even if the fiction isn t all that fictional at all Writing fiction that closely adheres to life is nothing new, of course Proust, Tolstoy working in the fields becomes Levin threshing with his serfs, Thomas Wolfe of Asheville NC not the guy in the white suit who turned over an entire town to make one character, Kerouac who changed the names and moved it all to the west coast, and of course recently my Incidents of Egotourism in the Temporary World ha ha ha always ahead o my time This one had a few early bits that almost had me turning on the narrator at first she seemed condescending and flakey but soon enough I was on her side Loved her contortions, especially the one at the end of which she realizes she s just another man trying to teach her something One lesson learned lots of Jewish artists in Toronto, home of the longest street in the world In general, I d like to see books like this, that attempt to make sense of things in an artful, questing questioning, intelligent but not wonky, impulsive intuitive, humorous way really loved the squash game at the end played between opponents who don t know the rules Nicely sums things up.


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    I actually believed the hype surrounding this book, including quotes from the New Yorker I read the novel in growing disbelief For the character to consider her observations epiphanies as she seriously seriously seems to do she d have to start off as a major jerk Give this book to the jerk in your life, they will only love themselves I fear this writer is the Paulo Coehlo of the privileged set Confused by the reviews, I went and actually dug up the supposedly positive New Yorker article quotes by the author and her publisher, and found that what James Wood actually wrote This sounds hideously narcissistic It is And If I wanted to hear that, I could settle in at a Starbucks and wait for the kids to get out at 3 o clock And insultingly shallow and sketchy After all, if you title a chapter that is only a few pages long What is Empathy you cannot seriously want to hear the reply Too bad this essay came out after I already paid money for this book Exile in Girlville Sex and Sheila Hetihttp lareviewofbooks.org article.ph Heti, like the authors of other Sexy But Not Sexual books, is not preoccupied with sex She s preoccupied with success which means navigating the difficult fact that freedom and power are not equivalent Instead of acknowledging this difficulty, Heti offers yet another way to ignore it.


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    Yeah, okay, I fell for it Read it in a great swooping gulp Perfect book for me to read in the anguishing throes of a girlfight which is taking up every inch of mental real estate Chloe Olivia, c Want to reread it immediately, want to post swathes of excerpt for everyone and myself and the world and preach the Gospel of Heti s style The faux naif flatly mannered simplicity, Hemingway by way of Lydia Davis, only even stripped down and artless people have said Patti Smith and they re not wrong maybe I think only I m personally convinced that Patti had one hell of an overworked, inexhaustible editor, and probably handed that woman a thousand pages of crap which she tore apart and reworked and put back together in order Like y all I liked the chapter on fucking too, which is scary and gross and pretty much perfect in its abject obsessiveness But, I guess in the end I could see the seams of the book too clearly, and its ambition diminished I could see exactly how the chapters were written separately and at different times and stitched together like a quilt, and this is how some books are, it does open out the form and give it a possibility to be mine, because it s that kind of narrative where I keep thinking maybe I too can pursue a long prose form, maybe I can hang my tattery rage typo for rags of beautiful post flarf onto these kinds of story bones.Here s the thing I m simultaneously reading House of Leaves, which is just stunning, and with every page I think yes, yes, I want to do THIS, I want to write that Big Baggy Book of Me, that maximalist wonder that can contain everything, all of it guitar, magic, science, Jesus, fundamentalism, Texas, piano, Chopin, Bach, astronomy, Plato, Aristotle, having your faith ruined by attic Greek playwrights, sex, mise en ab me, the abysmal, the degraded, women s colleges, radical feminism, lovers, betrayal, two psych units, drugs and drugs, Cambridge as academic fairyland, the semi automated mechanics of heterosexual marriage, Paris, Florence, Venice, Boston, workshop, losing your soul, Santa Fe, Zen, sexual harassment, bewilderment, broken bones, throwing up in a motel room in Arkansas, shaving your own head, adultery, and everything afterward, including two psych units and a lesbian psychiatrist in a black leather jacket and no hope And that s just the personal stuff, you want it to stretch and expand like an accordion to fit in the craziness of our culture, two Gulf Wars, the decline of the academy, the distortion and or fruition of what Americanness meant, was meant to mean, as even the most brilliant intellectual neo cons became stupid and stubbornly reactionary despite the social equality movements taking place right in front of all our faces, the resistance to a seemingly inevitable Hegelian process making the US into the EU, no the UAE, no the EU, no the UAE, because dammit we refuse to evolve, we will remain a theocracy and all the while the oceans are heating up that last two degrees centigrade which has already doomed us A darkly female Bildungsroman with its healthy latte foam of late capitalist diagnosis Never finding it, by the way Never finding it again And when I think about all this somehow Danielewski s capacious form form also of many female novelists as many of you and I have discussed many times seems righter to for me than the deliberately simplified one Heti crafts and occupies so perfectly, which fits her like a shoe My preference for the overwritten or overwrought or just over does not mean that I produce pages, though, so what the fuck do I know Also, it is very funny at times Also, I winced a lot Also, I want my friend to read this book, and my best friend And I think fondly, foolishly maybe I can write a novel about our friendship someday since my best friend also is a painter visual artist and since I too cannot ever finish this one act play I started in a hospital bed 2 and 1 2 years ago Because the friends get back together at the end of the book I like to think friends can always get back together I can t finish this review without subtweeting disgustingly because I pretty much have a one track mind at the moment, but this is close enough I liked it and am glad I have the hardback, I will read it probably every year for a long time.Also, this is pretty much what being in your twenties is like doing a lot of geographicals Thinking you can figure stuff out by buying an expensive bus ticket and then getting to the beach and realizing no, you still have to deal with it on its own terms, you can t go to Atlantic City and have an epiphany, not really.Also, I had that first boyfriend too the one who basically sat down and wrote out what a cheap, shabby failure I would inevitably become, artistically and romantically and for all my life It casts a long shadow over your adult life, that sneering prognostication That curse, so well articulated that you can never quite slip out from under it Even when you turn to face it squarely and deliberately choose to reclaim its ugly labelling Probably the title of the novel my novel, I mean should just be, Stupid Bitch.


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    I could see people hating this book I can imagine many criticisms that I would totally accept as valid It has taken me weeks to figure out what I liked about the book But, despite this I thought it a brilliant illumination of contempary life of youngish city dwellers It felt complete and rounded and sincere It may be a bit hollow and inconsequential almost vapid but that feels so much part of the novel s characters existence that it is itself a commentary on their lives and experiences I found it engrossing and satisfying, but I would still hesitate to recommend this generally, because I m not confident enough in its general appeal The book is written as a memoir I don t know how true it actually is, but it conveys the impression that it s pretty close The narrator, Sheila of course, is a writer, and feckless in the manner of the modern world It is a fairly scattershot narrative, and deliberately idiosyncratic It meanders, and jumps around, and is not overly concerned with plot This mirrors the attitudes and character of the writer, and the themes of the book very cleverly You don t just read the memoir, but in reading it you feel the experience of it.She suffers from writers block and her continuing failure to work on a play that she is contracted to write runs through the novel She doesn t seem overly bothered by it However, the main focus of the narrative is Sheila s intense friendship with a painter, Margaux The strength of this friendship is the dominant, most emphatic thing in the book It subsumes everything else, she feels brilliant with Margaux and feels that everyone else feels that about them Really Sheila just wants to be successful at and famous for being the most wonderful friends with Margaux She realises this isn t realistic particularly the latter it s quite possible she believes the former already , but it is still her honest and sincere wish In reviews, much has been written about the abusive, exploitative and explicit sexual relationship she is in during the novel It is another major theme of the book and is juxtaposed with her friendship with Margaux, her unsuccessful playwriting, and her struggling to discover how a person should be However, it doesn t take up that many actual pages It is not what the book is about nonetheless, it is another reason why I would hesitate to recommend it to people.Sheila s fecklessness manifests in a number of ways She and her friends discuss things seriously and intelligently, but at a fairly superficial level She longs for fame, but not a fame she has to work at, or even earn, and one that she does not wish to interfere with her current lifestyle There is also her casual, relatively banal drug use, her under developed work ethic Of particular note, though, is her treatment of her divorce after three years of marriage It is mentioned several times, but almost in passing, never really examined She relates how her actions have affected other people, but, apart from when it affects her relationship with Margaux, is not overly concerned about it Despite all this, I found her to be a likeable protagonist She is not amoral, nor particularly decadent in the context of the society in which she lives She is self centred, but in a natural and believable way While she certainly doesn t always behave admirably, neither does she defend her actions She is entirely plausible, and highly recognisable in her desires and fears and behaviours in people that I know She worries how a person should be, and relates how life is.


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How Should a Person Be? summary pdf How Should a Person Be?, summary chapter 2 How Should a Person Be?, sparknotes How Should a Person Be?, How Should a Person Be? a758363 From The Internationally Acclaimed Author Of The Middle Stories And Ticknor Comes A Bold Interrogation Into The Possibility Of A Beautiful Life How Should A Person Be Is A Novel Of Many Identities An Autobiography Of The Mind, A Postmodern Self Help Book, And A Fictionalized Portrait Of The Artist As A Young Woman Of Two Such Artists, In FactFor Reasons Multiple And Mysterious, Sheila Finds Herself In A Quandary Of Self Doubt, Questioning How A Person Should Be In The World Inspired By Her Friend Margaux, A Painter, And Her Seemingly Untortured Ability To Live And Create, Sheila Casts Margaux As Material, Embarking On A Series Of Recordings In Which Nothing Is Too Personal, Too Ugly, Or Too Banal To Be Turned Into Art Along The Way, Sheila Confronts A Cast Of Painters Who Are Equally Blocked In An Age In Which The Blow Job Is The Ultimate Art Form She Begins Questioning Her Desire To Be Important, Her Quest To Be Both A Leader And A Pupil, And Her Unwillingness To Sacrifice HerselfSearching, Uncompromising And Yet Mordantly Funny, How Should A Person Be Is A Brilliant Portrait Of Art Making And Friendship From The Psychic Underground Of Canada S Most Fiercely Original Writer

  • Hardcover
  • 306 pages
  • How Should a Person Be?
  • Sheila Heti
  • English
  • 10 February 2019
  • 9780805094725

About the Author: Sheila Heti

Sheila Heti is the author of five books three books of fiction, a children s book, and a work of non fiction with Misha Glouberman She is Interviews Editor at The Believer and is known for her long interviews She lives in Toronto.